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poetic_light

4/14/08 02:12 pm

To be the bigger person is always better than being the small one...but what exactly does it mean to be the bigger person...(i always seem to ask myself) I've been thinking that alot..sometimes dealing with peopel at schol is harder than it may seem to be. I came to the conclusion that being the bigger person isn't doing the opposite of what the smaller person wants you to do or trying to make your parents, teacher, friends happy or trying to stay out of trouble at all costs. I think that being the bigger person is simply doing what YOU think is right...finding out a way to keep negitivity out of YOUR OWN life and I do believe that that procedure is different for everyone. Like mine may be ignoing the conflict completely (which it's not) and yours may be fighting back and going at it head on while some one elses may be getting authority figures involved. Being the bigger person isn't nessisarly one thing, it can be may different things for many different people. The question is not what is the right thing to do but what is right for you. 

thanks for reading have an amazing day <3

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• tomakins

  4/14/08 07:01 pm (UTC)

  

  I read a tea tag once that said: "Realize that the other person is you."
  
  I try to think of that when trying to be the bigger person. I try to think on what is truly right vs wrong in a situation and I try to think of how they are feeling/thinking. Why are they doing what they are doing? How would they react to me trying to be the bigger person.
  
  There was a time recently, within the past two weeks actually, where I felt I was really being the bigger person. I still feel that I was/am. However by the time it was all over they were just not seeing things clearly and were poking at my face. Well, I gave my thoughts, tried to defuse the situation, but had to just walk away.
  
  I was the bigger person, but the situation was not resolved. Just walked away from.

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    poetic_light

    4/14/08 07:11 pm (UTC)

    

    That's great :) I agree that other peoples feelings are important but sometimes you just have to do what's for you. But Iam very proud of you for doing what you did. :)
    
    Thanks for your imput :)
    Have a great day

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• duir_id

  4/14/08 07:43 pm (UTC)

  

  the only person who has total control over you is YOU. Same goes for other people, you can't control them, only guide them in a way that you yourself would want to be guided. I find as long as treat other people with respect then I am doing the only thing I can do. If they don't respect me back that is their loss. It isn't me being bigger and better than them, it is just me being me. Life is too short to put yourself at the mercy of others and trying to make others like you. For all any of us know, none of us might be hear tomorrow.
  
  Carpe Diem... and if that doesn't work... Carpe Jugulum.

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    poetic_light

    4/15/08 03:03 pm (UTC)

    

    I agree... But I also think that being the bigger person for yourself, is important too... if youdon't feel as you made a difference in your own life was it worth the effort? Helping people benifits you in ways of accomplishments, feeling needed, knowing that you made a difference, and making connections..The question is, Is doing things that don't benifit you worth the waste of life? You can't wear yourself out trying to do for the other person as well...especially if negitivity is being brought to your life... sometimes you just have to let go.
    
    Thank you for your comments.. you've opened my mind a bit more. Thank you, friend :)

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• alltoofamiliar

  4/14/08 08:42 pm (UTC)

  

  Adding you as a friend. I hope you dont mind.

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