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What I'm thinking of today... need advice

poetic_light

4/15/08 08:29 pm

 I seem to write poetry... sometimes. I've noticed about myself that I can't just say 'okay, I shall write a poem at this very second' I wait sometimes and after a while it explodes on paper like a atomic bomb screaming out from my soul and grabbing the hearts of others...it's very interesting the way I approach things, some sort of oddity. Oh well maybe it's not too odd. I think that I'm going to try to write something later tonight. 
So I need advice for anyone who's reading... How can I expess my anger (or should I express it at all) to someone special in my life who blew off plans with me for this saturday... 1. they forgot about them  2. they don't want to change the plans but thet feel as though they should because it's a friends birthday.   I feel pety... I feel so low and selfish because I should be more understanding... but I can't help it that I'm upset about it... I even know that they don't want to change their plans but it just hurts me because I was so excited about the plans...I mean we've been planning this for a month. I reacted badly at first... but now I'm wondering if I should let it go and suck it up... or talk about my feelings. Help me 
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• aurora_is_dead

  4/16/08 01:20 am (UTC)

  

  always talk about problems or issues with friends. if you're upset with someone, talk to them about it in a way that won't make them feel as though they're being attacked. if you don't, you'll just stay bitter or angry over it far longer than you should. there's nothing petty about being angry or let down when someone breaks plans that you've had for a long time. i'd be really upset and angry, too. as long as this isn't a reoccurring issue, don't get too upset over it.
  
  maybe you can make new plans or do whatever you were planning to do at a later time.

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    poetic_light

    4/16/08 02:50 pm (UTC)

    

    Thank you. I hope everything works out. This is kinda first time it's happened...thank you for your imput :)

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• crushedglass

  4/16/08 10:25 am (UTC)

  

  I would say pretty much what you've said here. That you reacted badly and are sorry about that. And that your reaction was because you are hurt/disappointed because you were excited and looking forward to the plans. Then maybe just leave it at that.

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    poetic_light

    4/16/08 02:54 pm (UTC)

    

    I feel like I should do something, like making up for reacting badly, or appologize... Or should I just let it go.. I mean our relationship is fine right now, but I know that the subject has to come back up.. and I'm just not sure how to act when it does...

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• marymusylisdead

  4/16/08 02:22 pm (UTC)

  

  i think it's good to purge. right it down or recite it or do it however you do it with 100% emotion; but they don't necessarily need to hear about it that way. take it down a notch and tell them about being upset calmly.
  
  just my two cents.

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    poetic_light

    4/16/08 02:47 pm (UTC)

    

    Thank you for your 2 cents :)

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• lyndonian

  4/18/08 11:04 pm (UTC)

  

  A lot of people say they won't write a poem for the sake of writing a poem, and I think that's probably wise. I can write a poem for the sake of it, but it's probably a terrible poem.
  
  Then there are the times you have an idea and you're afraid you won't be able to make it work, and sometimes then I just make a note, or try to remember it until some unknown part of me tacitly or spontaneously knows how to make it work and tells me by taking over.
  
  Express your anger honestly. If you beat around the bush, you might give the wrong impression. That doesn't mean don't be considerate, or take it out on the person. Treat it like something you're both working on together, so it's normal to say how you feel or felt.
  
  You feel upset. You feel maybe you shouldn't be so upset. You don't know whether to say anything.
  
  Say something. And let them respond.
  
  Peace.

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